N, I was raking and mulching too. It's a great way to rid your mind of negative thoughts and the exercise is wonderful. I didn't have a couple of pets to keep me warm, but I'm glad they were there for you.
I understand completely what you are saying about the way your xh treated you. What your former co-worker said about the booze and women...well...he's right.
I do hope that you have a very happy Thanksgiving w/your family. Do not allow negative thoughts to enter your mind on that special day.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
