wow...sorry. That had to suck finding all that out.
I'm glad it progressed to topless air hockey (which is something that would never even occur to me)!! but that's great.
Well keep lurking...you are helping me.
My H said he was just 'thinking at work' about his decisions and thought he needed to put his priorities in order...that's when the big personality switch occurred...and has turned into where we are right now.
My H said he was just 'thinking at work' about his decisions and thought he needed to put his priorities in order...that's when the big personality switch occurred...and has turned into where we are right now.
That's when his weird behaviour started? Are you talking about today or this is where it started two years ago.
You know it's really asking for trouble but you might ask if it's he who is not seeing someone. Or is thinking about it. If you are really innocent and he has no reason to doubt, then why does he keep harping on this? Kind of like those gay basher politicians that wind up in a Wendy's bathroom with a 20 year intern.
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That is what he said was his big turn-around 2 years ago. I really have no idea why he keeps harping on this. The only explanation I've been able to muster....is that I'm his new focus on his anxiety disorder. His focus USED to be his body. He consistently thought something was wrong with him...hypochondriac... But now it's all focused on me and why I'm not responding to his big turn-around.
yeah...the male politician caught with a male intern?? tee hee....
And I have asked him that question before. He completely absolutely denies it....
Also, years ago during the time period when he was gone quite a lot...I asked him if he was where he said he was...and he said yeah.
He brings that up to me now...'well you thought I was messing around...but it's not ok for ME to think so.' Well, if you would take the time to follow me throughout my day...I would have to be screwing a rubber doll in the bathroom, if I were having some sort of affair.
I am never home late, unless I am picking up supper...and someone knows about this. I never go 'out with the girls'...nothing. If I'm not at work - I'm at home....period.
this summer he was snooping on my phone and saw that I had text'd my high school girlfriend and asked her if she'd go to a pro baseball game with me, because we're both fans of the same team and I was being offered some possible free tix....
he had a FIT!! a complete absolute fit. I didn't even have the tix in my hands yet...it wasn't a sure thing - so i didn't mention it. he freaked.
There are many many more episodes such as these that have taken place. I'm at my wits end about it.
My perspective on that front may not be the best because I am pretty loose in that regard. My wife goes where she wants and I have never really worried about it. I figure if it's gonna happen, it's gonna happen. It is sort of ironic in my case but even now I believe if my house is in order, there is nothing to worry about. That said, your husband is getting his undies in a bunch over nothing...assuming you have never given him reason to doubt
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Doh! Sorry about that. You are not imprisoned. Either way you are free to be where you want to be.
Maybe just take some time off from worrying about it so much...
Maybe let him spend a little time reading the book and you too.
Maybe just make your goal to get through this week and take it from there. Or even just try to have one peaceful day. Each peaceful day makes the next easier to make peaceful
Me 44 She 46 S13 D9 M18 T23 3 years DB'ing Successfully busted
Down, I've been reading your comments here and would welcome your perspective on my sitch (with apologies to peace2u who pointed me to this link for hijacking it!) if you have a chance. I need the support of someone who has been there in sticking to DBing (i'm not pursuing, even though I think she thinks I am; I'm no longer snooping, haven't done that in months; and am giving her her distance)...
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Alex...Down has helped me out tremendously, too..giving me the guys perspective...
I posted on your thread...wondering what would happen if you would offer your W a timeline - like a 6 month trial at an 'in-house' separation? It might buy you both time while staying home together, too
