Go to marriagebuilders.com they specifically deal with affairs and have many more resources for those heading toward a reconciliation.
The biggest thing you have to over come is your lack of trust toward your H. He broke it, it is up to him to fix it. (well 99% of it) The stage you find yourself in is the one you dreamed of. It deals with an entirely different set of circumstances than what brought you here initially. Same as before, do your reseach, learn all you can. The big difference is, if your H is serious about coming home, you now have a common goal.
Be honest, be deliberate and communicate your feelings. Learn about reconciling together. Share reading a book on the subject. Set aside one night a week, to talk about his efforts and your efforts. Find common ground and move forward.
