And your wife is SO FAR out of line with that response to D17 that I don't even know what to say.
I told D17 the same thing later. She was right.
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I do want to know one thing though - what in the world would make you buy such a big ticket item for D13 one month before Christmas?
Anything and everything else is going to pale by comparison.
And your wife was already dealing with the realization that nothing she could provide for either of the girls would amount to a hill of beans.
But now it's basically been thrown in her face just how utterly disadvantaged she is. Understand this is WAW mentality talking to you. But "little" stuff like this is what is likely to get her hackles up and make her fight for half of everything you own.
And Frank, she will get it.
You need to be careful not to offend her too much.
Ok, the thing is that D13 was excited because I promised her that when I could afford it she would get it. The past 2 weeks she knew I was going to be getting some money and asked me practically every day. Even W told me that I should be sure NOT to get her hopes up.
Also, W has been pushing me to help D17 get a car 'because she needs one'. So getting D17 money for a car is 'good' but getting D13 laptop is 'bad'.
Luckily I have no need to buy anything else right now. And I am paying into her credit cards slowly when I can.
Another note. We usually go to her dad's for thanksgiving dinner. He called me and invited me over since that's 'my day' with the girls. He said he talked to W first and she declined to come and said it was good that he was able to visit with the girls.
He said he was kind of glad she decided not to come because there was too much tension between us at the funeral.
This is all crazy. She doesn't want me, she doesn't like me, she is probably angry that I'm starting to thrive again and she's still struggling. Her kids just don't like being around her much of the time. But she has OM and I have nobody.
I'm trying to do the right thing but even that seems like it's wrong.
