W said to D17 'well I clean up things and usually empty the dishwasher when I come over'.
D17 said that it's fine but then she leaves pans on the stove and dishes on the counter often. Then D17 says "You don't live here and when you're a guest in someones house you should be neater"
Whoa.
D17 says that W replied "F - you!"
I didn't know what to say.
D17 went on to say that W shouldn't act like she lives here because she doesn't.
Your daughter is right.
And your wife is SO FAR out of line with that response to D17 that I don't even know what to say.
I do want to know one thing though - what in the world would make you buy such a big ticket item for D13 one month before Christmas?
Anything and everything else is going to pale by comparison.
And your wife was already dealing with the realization that nothing she could provide for either of the girls would amount to a hill of beans.
But now it's basically been thrown in her face just how utterly disadvantaged she is. Understand this is WAW mentality talking to you. But "little" stuff like this is what is likely to get her hackles up and make her fight for half of everything you own.
And Frank, she will get it.
You need to be careful not to offend her too much.
