Well, I go to workout MWF at noon. I have a contact there that has told me since W & OM went to a wedding reception together, they have been out in public together all the time. We are fairly new to town and didn't go out much, so most people wouldn't know that she is married w/ child.
My W is telling people that she is D and never mentions she has a child. People can tell there is something funny with her relationship w/ OM. And, people are well aware she is only in it for his trust fund.
They have been out to the bars on a consistent basis - weekdays & weekends. OM's nickname to people that know him is "Drunk {OM}"
My W is at the bars buying shots for everyone, including my friend that is telling me what she has been up to and taking pictures of what is going on. My W even bought shots at the wedding reception and gave a little (2-3 yr old) a shot of water so she could participate as well. W's boss is getting sick of W showing up hung-over and late for work.
My friend told me that W is planning vacations w/ OM. They were going to go to Mexico, but W couldn't find her birth certificate - so they are just going to go somewhere in CA.
I have also learned that most of the people that I felt said "screw makingchanges" because they were supporting W's affair have actually distanced themselves from W & OM and do not approve. That makes me feel better- I was beginning to think there were very few good people in this world.
I'm going to schedule some more appts w/ my new IC and go from there. Wait patiently as W destroys her own life and move on with mine having my S's best interests in mind.
Am I crazy? I still want to approach this with reconciliation as the goal. It sure seems like I am crazy.
Is this typical that the A will turn the S into a totally different person?
