Yeah, it was really good. I didn't realize how long it was, but it was very good. Everything kind of ended like it should I think. Wish we could all have a happy ending like that! Karen
The first couple of times I saw it I didn't think there was enough Charlotte(my favorite character)but now it seemed just right. Funny how one's perception changes because of where you are yourself.
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Glad you all enjoyed snuggling up in warm blankets watching a movie. I spent the day out crushing crime and defeating evil. Not really, just dealing with adults who act like kids.
Hang in there girl. Create your own happy ending.
A warrior does not give up on what he loves, he finds the love in what he does
OK, rough day yesterday. Both kids were a handful. They had stayed at their dad's Friday night and Saturday and I think the transitions are esp. hard for autistic kids. D9 had a meltdown yesterday am b/c we couldn't find her favorite fuzzy socks. I think she left one pair at her dad's and I found one of them in a garbage bag he had put them in after church--not in the backpack I've been putting her stuff in. Then S15 was horrible all day too, bugging his sister and eating her Cheetah Puffs and he doesn't even like them! I was so relieved by my bible study last night. Two full hours with grownups and no kids!!! It's thrilling!
Today H emailed me this am he wants to take the kids Wednesday night through Sunday. He's been taking them one night a week for the past 2 months (before that not really at all) so that's a big jump up. My thoughts are several: he's trying to act like a great dad the closer we get to trial; the kids would love to be with their dad, think it will be hard for him to take care of them that long as they have their moments and his temper's not that great. Tempted to let him have them for that long for a lesson for him, but think it might not be great for the kids. My L also said we should keep the custody arrangments the same until our Dec. 3rd hearing (gee maybe that's why he wants the week before the hearing with the kids), and so probably can't shouldn't agree to that b/c of the legal sitch. I emailed the attorney and forwarded his email and asked her legal advice. It will be nice to have the D over and custody in writing and everything (I think). Karen
Not to mention that is over the holiday. He is getting Thanksgiving this year? We haven't even talked about it. He hasn't asked for them at all, so I guess they are maybe doing it tomorrow since it is his night.
My Mom asked me what we were doing last week and I said you know I am so mad at him I haven't even brought it up. I guess they also could do theirs on Friday. Oh I don't know. Just know I love them to bits and don't want to make it in to a showdown.
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Well, it should be a lot easier for me after the D I think. Then I won't be so suspicious of the timing. I'm guessing that H's L might have said well once a week isn't very much since you're trying to get primary custody, try to get the kids for a longer period!
My C (and the kids' C) has said to me a few times that she thinks H will probably see the kids a lot less after the D. He's probably seeing them a lot now trying to get custody and save himself money in child support and alimony. I hope that isn't true, but he certainly is seeing them more and more the closer we get to court dates. He wasn't having them for overnight visits but once every couple of months, then about 2 months ago started one night a week, now wants to increase it to 4 nights a week right before our first hearing. I just think it is so rude of him to basically use the kids. I suspect he won't be looking for extra visits or longer visits after the D. I hope he still sees them on a regular basis, at least what the court orders or whatever.
I think you will be better without the stress always around you. If that means H well then, that means H. He is fooling himself and I think this "great idea" of his is a last ditch effort to show how great he is. He is delusional(aren't they all). I doubt that he could handle them for that whole time. Maybe you could say, sure you can have them, why don't we put that in the decree that you will have them for 4 nights in a row every month! Then I bet he would start backing off really quick!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Karen the evil part of me thinks....you want em' buddy? Take em'. But the Mom part of me worries about what you posted about his not being patient with them. Him playing "SuperDad" right now in order to decrease his responsibility also sucks, but the court is going to see right through him so don't worry.
Sorry its stressful, but its going to get better soon. (((hugs)))
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Karen the evil part of me thinks....you want em' buddy? Take em'. But the Mom part of me worries about what you posted about his not being patient with them.
Thanks, Cory! I have the same thinking exactly: I've got my evil part thinking have the kids and he'd go crazy. The longest he's ever had them is when I went to my high school reunion 7 or 8 years ago. He had them for a weekend and I remember he said how wiped out he was and how he didn't realize. I know he's forgotten that by now though so a refresher course! One night is so easy, 4 in a row is a different story of course.
Yeah, the mom part in me is worried about the kids. I'm thinking maybe 2 or at the most 3 nights if the lawyer agrees. Even that is longer than I've ever been without them. Other than that one weekend, I've been with them every day of their lives! Karen
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