NEW DBERS!! dealing with MLC: Some things that help

[Tamashii]

There are many cases of restoration of marriage after divorce. The woman who founded Rejoice Ministries has a restored marriage after divorce. http://www.rejoiceministries.org
However, there is a definite suggested approach to this restoration. Another web site I recommend is http://www.midlife.com. As for what he said to you, they all say that. Even the ones that end up coming home. He appears happy, but he will soon see that you aren't the source of his problems, because you aren't around. Statistics prove that most of these relationships do not last, and that most of the ones that last a while do not end in marriage. Most of the ones that end in marriage do not last. I have a friend whose H remarried, then divorced the OW after 3 years and is now reconnecting with my friend. If you are willing to love your H in spite of what he does and use the approach that is suggested to you, you will have a chance for a restored marriage. This is not easy. I have not seen my wife in 3 years. You will have to let this MLC run its course. You must let go of him, turn him over to God, and spend the time working on what you can change:YOU! Come to the midlife board and get the support you need. With the DB board, Rejoice Ministries and Midlife, you will get tremendous support and all the tools you need to weather this storm. Know that this won't end next week, next month, or possibly next year. Be prepared for a long haul. This will test your mettle far more than anything you've experienced, believe me.
God bless you. I'm so sorry you have to be here.

David