I do see him making efforts and that does make me happy.
I think I need to start with #1 but, like a friend told me, maybe just 1 need at a time. Don't want to overload him.
As far as the MC is concerned, we went to our 1st session last weekend with my IC. H was not talkative. ONly answered questions when asked. We've been to MC before after the A, for 1 year. He doesn't really think it works but is going because I made it a requirement. My H is an attorney and knows how to tell people "what they want to hear". Everyone but me, that is. I see thru that and don't let him get away with it. I think thats where alot of my anger started. He would "lawyer" me when we had a conflict. When he came home, that was another requirement: NO LAWYERING ME.
The thing that gets me, is that he KNOWS these are my needs. I listed all the same things out when we first went to MC after A. I listed them out to him again, right before he left. ITs not like he doesn't know that I need this. Its like he doesn't want to do it or can't do it.
I am sure its partly his upbringing. No communication in his family. No show of love, let alone speak it.
