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i JUST texted those exact words to him. I will re-iterate in person later...because any effort on my part is just thrown out the window when this is consistently thrown in my face.


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Text messaging has to be the absolute worst way to communicate serious issues ever invented.


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i KNOW that...we are both at work right now - no other option...that's why i said i'd re-iterate later in person. there was more to our texting conversation than that.

but i whole heartedly agree on the texting thing.


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So...spill, what did he say in response to your texta/


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his big response was 'OK'

once again - this is why texting is bad, bad, bad. :-)

when i asked for space he gave me a good week's worth, so i hope that demanding that this issue goes bye-bye...will help. i don't know. As much as you all have helped - and i so appreciate it. I'm still pretty much at a loss.

I do have the book to dive further into, as well.


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AND thank GOD I found this place. It has helped me more in 2 weeks than 6 months of therapy!!


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Who knows. Maybe that is not bad. Ever see Moon Struck where the mother says and I want you to stop seeing that woman. All he says is OK.

One of the greatest movies made. No violence, almost no sex and great all the way through. Typically, I go for Kung-fu nymphomaniacs but that's just me. It is a chick flick that even guys like (or at least me).


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yeah I've seen it and you completely crack me up.

I was typing earlier the question of why you started your snooping/persuing. You don't have to answer..I just never heard your story


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And I ask because I am completely still baffled as to why my episode of persuing/snooping began.


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I went snooping because my gut told me something was not right. Instincts are a lot better than most people give credit for. Where there is smoke, there usually, at least more smoke, probably some sparks and often fire. She is a writer and keeps everything in notebooks. I still to this day think she wanted to get caught as there were pages upon pages of how much I sucked and this beautiful young man/boy was like her savior. Our marriage was a joke, she never loved me. Our sex was never good. What was she thinking to compromise so much by choosing me blah, blah, blah...BAAAaarrrrrfffffffffff She was leaving these notebooks right out on the kitchen table.

Anyway, our sex had slowly gotten worse and worse, which one could attribute to 20 years together. But, at some point she seemed distant in the day time too. The little cute faces we used to make to each other. Sentences or running jokes we had stopped running. I dunno, our connect seemed broken. I figured I would take a peek and boy let me tell you ignorance is bliss. I think we are getting better. We did play topless air hockey at lunch today. That's better right? But I am still trying to come to terms with some of the stuff I read. It is my penance for violating her trust but it still sucks.

I don't have a story or thread posted hear. I lurk daily but only post to people I feel I can offer some real help to.

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