Doing what got me this far.

[ernest88]

She may have taken it the wrong way at first and that is why she got out of bed and went into the bathroom to get changed. I did not mean it to sound like I don't want to do stuff for or with my kids or that they are a burden to me but holy cow if we don't spend time together and learn how to enjoy each other again how are we ever going to get the intimacy back that is needed to revitalize this M. I sometimes feel like a dog chasing its tail.

After she came downstairs we were able to continue our converstation and then when she got back from shopping for stuff for the birthday party on Sunday and we were cutting up veggies and cheese that she suggested going out shopping together. I also think it is why she came to bed early. Either to appease me or she is seeing the relavence of my argument. Who knows which it is my mind reading tool is on the fritz, got one to spare?

I think she heard you, ignored it, then tried to make it up to you with the shopping trip..

you are a dog chasing it's tail now..but if you catch the damn thing then >>ohhhh what fun that could be!!

I had a crystal ball one time..Ian broke the damn thing with a 2x4 so I no longer have one..

I just want to find a happy balance between the kids, the house, my time and our time together. Right now the frist two take it all and there is almost none for the last. I have been pondering for about two weeks now on how I should broach this subject and have us work on a solution because one needs to be found.

so find a way.. a solution is there. Look for it..ask her for a date night..get a sitter..tell the kids..something comes up with a friend then you just miss out..this night is all about mom and dad time..

Anyway, How was your weekend Mike.

it's a party all the time Tim..Jocularity, Jocularity