Doing what got me this far.

[Kakatal]

Good morning Tim. As always thanks for your advice on my sitch. Hope I can return the favor.

That's when I said I am tired of everything being for the kids and about the kids what about us. I said I wanted to go out tonight.

I have been pondering for about two weeks now on how I should broach this subject and have us work on a solution because one needs to be found.

Reading the above 2 sentences it appears to me that you have already broached the subject with you w. And in your earlier post, you said the following:

Told her we need time to go out and just be together and that it can't always be about the kids. Did not really get much of a response from her and she got up to get ready.

When I got home my W was there and suggested we go out and do some shopping and stuff.

It appears that your w did hear your concern although initially she did not respond to you, she later did try on her part to do something with you.

I'd just tell her you would like to talk & bring up how you want to plan "date night" or something along the lines of wanting to dedicate a night once a month, every two weeks, whatever feels comfortable to her for the 2 of you to go out & enjoy life. It isn't a subject that is coming out of left field - you already brought it up this past weekend.

You are dead on with not restoring feelings of intimacy if you do not start enjoying each other's company alone.