I read a long time ago they don't want to be around us now. If they did they wouldn't have left. They are actually repulsed by us and our contact makes them uncomfortable for a variety of reasons, one often being guilt. This may be disguised as anger toward us.
If there is a future for you and your H it is down the road, maybe years down the road.
I know this isn't what you want to hear (I didn't when I heard it) but as time passes this will ring true.
Try not to think of him, maybe you can imagine him to be on a long trip. Get a life, work on yourself.
Holidays are tough but you can do this.
"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12 Bomb and OM 12/15/06 Separated 01/02/07 Divorced 05/13/08 X married OM(OMH) 08/2009 Married 06/09/13