Here's the thing about the division of labor. It "feels" to me that it is more a product of her resentment of men in general (which for obvious reasons gets directed at me) than it is about what actually happens. I hope that MC, or in the end IC might get to the bottom of that. For now I will try to be objective, and see what I can do, without becoming a doormat. It does seem a foolish thing to lose a M over. Which is why I think the issue is deeper. Her way of dealing with this issue seems a bit over the top to me.
Last night when W got home from work, S14 was acting really slow. She asked how he'd been through the day, and I said that there had been a few times that I though he seemed down, and I'd asked him if he was ok, he always said he was. He's had a cold, I think it has gotten a bit worse. He stayed home from school today, and looked pretty out of it. Anyway, last night, he an W were snuggling on the sofa after she got home. After a bit, I said, "Since he has you pinned there, can I get you anything?" She said, "That's very kind." And they both asked for ice cream, and she asked for a bowl of tortilla soup. That's the second time in a week that she has recognized something kind I did (I can't for the life of me remember the other, but I think I wrote about it!) Maybe that is a good thing.
I just realized this morning that if S19 and THREE girls (long story, one is the GF, one is her roomate, and one is the backup driver in case the roomate couldn't come) are going to be visiting from school this weekend, W may be sleeping in the bed again. I need to tidy up! It's not bad, but I can make it better! She hasn't mentioned it, but she didn't last time, either.
