As for Thanksgiving, put the invite out there and let him decide whether he wants to be a part of the family tradition. Put the ball back into his court for the day.
It's now Monday before Thanksgiving....I haven't heard any wishes from H's family (his mom and I had talked about Thanksgiving and she knew their family could plan whatever they wanted....) It's not unusual to not hear anything if their plans won't be including you.
Anyway..my text:
"Well...I haven't heard anything about Thanksgiving so d8 and I shopped 4 and plan to make Thanksgiving dinner"
I sent that 30 minutes ago.
And as you say...the ball is in his court now.
I am not in denial about H filing D papers 2 weeks ago...I am uneasy being friendly...maybe it's better said, I feel very guarded with my friendship and feelings...but, I do want to be approachable.
I think reality of D is hitting H...he isn't acting like 'being friends' is such an easy thing.
Sophie
~~ Me-50 H-38 Married 15 years 8/7/08 D8 S10 S13 H affair 11/04-7/04 maybe longer H moved out 4/06
7/30/08- present: Reconnecting w/kids,friendly 10/30/08 H signed D papers 11/10/08 D papers filed 11/13/08 D papers served at home
