Maybe I should be in piecing part 4?

[Hope4us]

I'm not going to get into recounting the whole weekend, but there were a number of things that happened that make me think she's almost there. So my question is, what do you think about giving her a note showing her how there is hope?

I think she'll only perceive it as "pressure", to get your way.

I'd just back off, and let her chew on all of this.

Puppy

Part of what I was going to put in the note was basically saying to her that I know I can't push her to accept my time table for us, but that I know I won't be able to do this for an infinite time while she decides.

I didn't post it, but on Saturday morning I went into the park by myself for about 4 hours and I think during that time alone I finally let go of the anger. I almost feel like I've forgiven her (not that she's done anything that warrants it). It might have had something to do with the deep conversation we had on Friday night about when her grandpa died (he was her male role model growing up) and how her grandma and aunt both told her she was not allowed to cry or show weakness at the funeral (nice huh, your grandpa dies and a 16 yr old is told she's not allowed to cry) so I think I gained a better understanding of why she has these walls built up (along with those other things we've discussed previously).

So I kept thinking what you said Pup about her feeling that it's hopeless so I wanted to talk to her without talking to her (honoring my promise to not bring it up) and give her some hope.