Guys, here is the exactly where things break down between the sexes. If you tell your man exactly what you need, that is in no way controlling, that is communicating. From a guys point of view.
That is a new concept for me. Seriously. I am in the process of learning how to be firm about what I need. And consistent I guess.
I probably need to link my old threads that give more background, Downnotout...I would love to hear your opinion. But I do have a different sitch than Peace I think, I have a very Jekyll/Hyde sitch and Jekyll can be responsive to what I need...Hyde, well that's another story.
Sometimes the Hydeish things aren't even aggressive, it's me saying I need a hug and he rolls his eyes and like half puts his arms around me. Once I said can I have a hug and he stood there with arms folded while I tried to hug him. Then he gets mad at me for being offended. Then another day he'll make it a bear hug. So...there's no figuring him out.
