Hi Kalni: I think I am still in the process of accepting the situation - moving here did make a big difference in that regard - though the days of sadness make me realize just how much I have to let go of the past - the hopes and dreams, etc - and focus even more on what i have been dealt.
You're so very right about staying away from my W's drama. I think that, since I haven't felt any anger since she's moved out - and feel like I've gotten a clearer picture of us and mostly me - I stumbled into thinking that she might have calmed too...and, oh my goodness, was I wrong.
I have to do a better job of staying out of her way - and not getting involved in her drama. Needless to say, the upcoming holidays are hitting hard - everywhere I look there are reminders of what a happy family can look like - and though I know it's just artificial marketing - it is part of that hope that we all held when starting a family...or even just getting married.
I do love my wife, Kalni...and so I will give her more of what she needs - time, space, life without me. And I won't send that email or text her or try to talk with her about us at all - and just let it be her thing. Her anger mystifies me in many ways - especially the way she expresses it now - and the things that she gets angry about just surprise me. I have to do a better job of not reacting to her anger when she does throw it my way.
Thanks for stopping by, Kalni. I think I'll be staying over here now...in separated...and do the symbolic thing of letting go of newcomers.
