Super close to walking out

[DownNotOut...yet]

Guys, here is the exactly where things break down between the sexes. If you tell your man exactly what you need, that is in no way controlling, that is communicating. From a guys point of view. Remember, I am the dumb guy former LBS. LBS guys just want to know what they need to do to make it right. Peace, you've said communicating is your problem. Is it possible you are confusing communicating with controlling?

Breakaway, I am not that familiar with your sitch so perhaps yours is different. If you are sure you are communicating to your husband what you need, and he gets it, and he still won't do it that is a problem.

I can only speak from the LBS husband perspective. Peace's husband sounds willing just clueless. I will try to read up on your sitch. If I can offer anything of value, I will.

All I can say is as a guy, who hangs with guys. Most of my guy friends all feel like they are fumbling around trying to make their wives like them love them like they used to. The boneheads never seem to say this to their wives but they will admit it to other men. Even the ones who are cheating, whose girlfriends I've met, the've said they would prefer to have no girlfriend and a wife who treats them well. Amazing! I don't know how it all gets so complicated.