He is not wealthy. I'm betting he makes less than I do. Honestly, I don't know much about him other than he is her co-worker and is younger than both of us. I may have met him at a party, but he obviously did not make much of an impression on me.

As for the sphere, it is all-encompassing. At the advice of my C, I told anyone who asked what happened the whole truth as I knew it. I limited the details to what I knew to be true and could prove, and left out anything that I could not prove. I could not prove a PA, and I said so every time. Everyone in our circle knows.

As for me, I am willing to try anything. I am beginning to understand exactly how hard it would be for us to get back to a good place, but I am willing to put forth the effort. Neither one of us ever made overt efforts to "work" on the M (I thought we were fine...) so I think it would behoove us to at least try before cashing out and running. She on the other hand told the MC that she was done and had zero interest in any effort what-so-ever. "This is not a cry for help" was her (W) quote during the first session.

I understand that this all hinges on her willingness to try, but she has not wavered a millimeter since the bomb. There has been zero R talk for over 2 months so I am not POSITIVE this is still the case, but she has not shown me otherwise. We do not talk at all.

She is steadfast and determined like I have never seen her before in my life. She tries to be nice to me, but it is the kid of nice that you have for a puppy or lost child. I have been strong and PMA for months around her.

Thanks in advance.


H: 38
W: 36
S: 8
S: 5
M: 16
Bomb: 8/25/08
OM: 9/21/08
EA (Possible PA) with co-worker since 5/08 (at least...)
Sep: 9/21/08
D Filed 9/23/08
My Situation