Since that time, I have gotten: its your daughter's fault. Its may be my fault because I am a "yes" man and now I have to say no. I don't love you but I care for you as a friend. I only married you because I felt backed into a corner. I tried to talk to you but you didn't listen. I told you our marriage was in trouble (yeah...no he didn't).
I hope you got to read Elliecat's threads, as I remember, her saying, that her husband said a lot of the same things. She may have said these over the phone to me, as we had telephone conversations as well.
Certainly he suffered from PTSD, it must be hard living in a place with bullets whistling past your head, and this brings on all sorts of thought of your own morality and seeking this illusive happiness.
I have my teanage daughter with me, she is not happy, I cannot tell her anything, I cannot advise her on anything, she is always so so right. I cannot get her to get off her arse, and do something constructive with her life.
This is just what her mother is doing.
It now is making so much sense as to what this MLC/depression is doing to a person. You then see it all around. A recent survey in the UK pointed to 46% of the population having depression at midlife. Add to that the other pinpointed stress disorders like PTSD. PMT etc.
However, whilst you are looking for answers, we can all relate to that on this board. Read, to help with what you are dealing with, but dont waste your life.
If I were to play "devils advocate" and say, "Hang on, you have only been married a few years, his idea of life with you and your daughter is not what he imagined, and feels he made a mistake"
Would you then hang on in hope.
That is why the clear message all over this site, not just in the MLC forum is GAL.
Live life as if the WAS is not coming back. I was a prisoner in the attic of my own home for over 2 years. What a waste!
You will get through this in time.
I am sorry you are not getting the responses you need from this forum, but it does take time to build up relationships and people to associate with your situation, to feel they can offer advice and support.
