I did say 'of course you're invited to Thanksgiving' in a nice way.
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I would have analyzed that response to death and freaked out for at least 48 hours or until I could find a way to get my next temperature check on the relationship. It could have nudged me right back into pursuing.
K...REALLY need your guys' response on this one....So you're saying that it is now MY sole responsibility to say everything and do everything in my power to be a fake nice sweet supportive person...JUST so my husband will not be nudged back into pursuing? I think your answer is going to be, yeah...if I want to stay married.
Well, this pursuing paranoid weak person is someone I do NOT want to be married to, at all. And now I know that that will always be a possibility in him...that he will always be capable of returning back to this person that I do not know. That's the same thing I think about his anxiety....that without the meds, he will be a person I don't want to be around at all.
I'm now his other medicine.
So I have to continue to remain strong, baby him back to the person I know? That sounds so stressful to me. I am really really tired of being the strong one, here. I am yearning for being taken care OF. But in hindsight, that has never happened either. I am NOT being sarcastic/cynical about this...I'm really serious. I know it sounds like pity me, pity me...
I bought the book last Friday, presented it to him. I said I've done alot of research and I think this book will help us out. I really hope both of us can read this, and go from there.
