It should be more of a partnership. Example, don't ask her what the priority for cleaning is, you should tell her which things you are going to attend to, she will disagree with you then you compromise on a plan of action. So if you say to her I have just washed the windows or I am going to do them, and she says no do the floors first, then agree and do the floors. The subtle difference is you made a decision in the first place and didn't just ask for permission.
CL in you reading my last post you thanked me for my honesty where I intermated that you were letting your W walk over you, but your next post still had the same tone << I'm going to start asking her what she thinks is priority, and I will tend to that first>>
<< CL I think your W is crying out for you to take the initiative in all aspects of you R and because you don't she gets angry and frustrated with you and starts shouting.>>
Sorry I'm just repeating what I said to you before (think about it)
