I think Ali makes a good point in terms of the fact that there are always more than 2 possible paths to follow. I don't see it as file for D or wait indefinitely.
You know yourself what you are comfortable with. I do think it might be a bit awkward to phone your H up out of the blue and ask him to meet up for drinks given the fact that you have not been interacting in that way for quite some time, but that doesn't mean that you can't organize something "business-related" if you urgently feel the need to speak to him. Maybe you are comfortable waiting and taking your opportunities to DB, like the great one you got with your H's friend today. If you do have the patience, this may be your best bet in terms of piquing your H's interest, and paving the way to a better friendship.
This gets to Lisa's post, and I think that she's right about patience being needed in this case, extreme patience. Of course this all assumes that your end goal is to save the marriage. From everything that you've said, this is still your aim. As this is your aim, you are likely going to need to wait him out...at least for the near future. If you don't get any kind of response after more time has passed, then you might want to reconsider your options.
Hope you're doing well otherwise. You sound really strong and positive.
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
