My W and I need to develop a partnership regarding housecleaning, not in terms of division of labor, but in terms of my W feeling like the household is being managed.
Saturday is my day for housecleaning and running errands. I'm going to start asking her what she thinks is priority, and I will tend to that first. I will often neglect what I didn't know what was a priority for her (ex. keeping the hardwood floors clean, as she likes to walk barefoot).
I hung in there with her during the difficult conversation, answered her honestly, and kept trying to move her towards solutions. Some of her words stung, and I do think she crossed the line with some of her comments, but I think at the core she wants a partner. There was an honesty about the conversation that was connecting for me, even though it was unpleasant.
Piecing is hard work, but I'm up to it.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
