Well, things have gotten a better in this department and we are working together to get DS into his own bed.
He has be EXTREMELY helpful around the house since he has been home. He has heard that alot of my anger came from a feeling of being overwhelmed with household chores, taking care of the kids and holding down a fulltime job. So he has really stepped up to help out with that.
Its been a month since he has been home. We have done some "fun" things to help rebuild that aspect of our R. I've let him pick the things we do without complaints from me. We've gotten better at touching, even if its just sitting on the couch with arms around each other. Thanking him when he does things.
So I see things moving in the right direction.
Now here is the thing, I just feel like there is something missing. I kind of feel like my needs are not being met but I just can't put my finger on it. I think its that I am not hearing "I Love You" much unless I initiate, I'm not being complimented on how I look (although he has been picking me up when he hugs me, which makes me feel good. Seems he has noticed that I am much lighter now) and I am not being romanced. And, just as before, we don't seem to have any "real" conversation. Without these needs being met, I still feel disconnected and insecure in our R.
Dilema then seems to be how to get him to understand and meet my needs, in the midst of all the progress I see in him in other areas? I don't want to come of as a "complainer".
