I know you probably have, but in lots of the WAW stuff there is quite a lot of emphasis on the wife feeling like a skivvy/ feeling taken for granted etc. In fact when h and I were having troubles the fact that I felt like his skivvy caused me a lot of resentment towards him. He did not get that AT ALL but those were my feelings and his lack of understanding really upset me. In fact when he left, amid my devastation the one positive thing that went through my mind was at least I no longer have to get home and pick up all his stuff and do his washing etc. Now, in retrospect h was not that bad but it became an issue for me. I just needed h to listen to my irrational, unfair moans and then listen to my plan for devising a new helpful way of doing things. And then, in some small way show some action - even one small thing rather than everything I suggested would have been enough. Controlling? Me? never!!
This is just my experience. We all know it is usually not one big thing that causes marital discord but a build up of tiny unimportant things. I feel this is a DBing opportunity for you. You never know, once you turn over that first domino (to quote Jody) other more positive things may start to happen rather than divorce discussions.
Also, yay on the MC that is great news. Are you going to look for a solution based one? MWD's office may be able to recommend some in your area?
I'm so please that she is mulling all that you have said over. I think you have made an impact.
