Wow, has it been 2 weeks? I'm sorry to hear that. Jody did say to me that this type of email was a risky strategy... they will either come back and be glad of the opening to break the guilt/silence and want to see you, or it could have the opposite effect and lead to D.. you had to be prepared to take the consequences. Did she say that to you? Not that it makes any difference what you did, IMO, what will be will be.
You said "I don't know how much longer I will go on without just snapping and organising the house sale/ divorce."...
There is an interim step..? Let down your DB defences, release your fear and just say, hi, can we meet up for a chat? For a catch up...why not? This non-contact is kind of fake and awkward. If you met, I bet you would get on fine. And then maybe a discussion abot you and him, or his life now, or your house, or even D?
In my sitch.. it happened naturally, he wanted to get things off his chest when I saw him.. now the truth was out, my C said (and Jody) that its a relief for them in a way. Anyway, its up to you, but something is better than nothing and at this stage, what have you got to lose?
I am sorry he hasnt responded, that is avoidant, but its also kind of rude.
