Yeah on the sleeping alone thing, I too found it hard to readjust to sharing a bed. For the first several days I would lay awake most of the night. Now it's nice, but still a little weird since there is still an emotional distance that means I can't wrap myself around him like I'd like to. Maybe that is part of it for you and your H as well? I know you are making progress and getting closer, but there are still hurdles to overcome.
I do think they usually get to a point where they realize the new friends, while maybe fun and exciting at first, aren't really the ones who will be there for them when things get ugly. I think the friendship stage is crucial to reconciliation for just this reason...you get the opportunity to be the same kind of friend that these new people have been, but your H knows that behind this friendship is real emotional depth. Glad that things are going well for you there, that you are laughing and spending time together. It's also really great that you are spending nights together. How frequently do you talk when you aren't together?
What are your proposed next steps? Also, do you keep a solutions journal for goals, baby-steps etc?
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
