Trixi aka "The Pitbull who can't let go"

[Trixi]

Well, hopefully I got thru to him.
He came over and we ate dinner and over dinner we were discussing the sitch with SS. It got pretty heated. Actually very heated. He seemed to want to let SS off the hook. I have been watching SS get in trouble (kicked out of daycare, ski buses, boyscouts..) the list goes on and on. And now the problems have gotten huge.
H said he will take SS to counseling and "tell the counselor everything Son has done". I told him that he WILL get called out for what he is doing. He said he knew that; that he knows he has "issues" and that he would probably talk some about our sitch. Now that I am thinking about it; I just hope he happens to hook up with a counselor that is pro-marriage.

By the end he had softened up quite a bit and said that he was listening to me and was taking everything I said to heart.
Then I talked about how nice his parents were being to me. And he said "They probably feel guilty" and I said "they should" and he said "Yeah! they really should!" and it just got me crying all over again. He actually had a very sweet look on his face when I was telling him about the interactions...and also when I said that I would be talking to his mom in the future about how deeply I was hurt. It was a very supportive smile. Maybe proud?

Anyway, initially he was definitely being rebellious and acting 'put out', but I think he has a better perspective on his role in the situation and that he is being called to be the leader and lead by example. I was worried that I might 'offend' him by calling it like I saw it, and he was offended/defensive, at first.