Today I went with my ex and daughter to see Bolt at the movies. I then spend the rest of the day with her shopping for inside plants for her loft. Later that evening she called me up and asked me why I put up with her (don't exactly know what she meant by that as she does not give me attitude or anything). I wanted to respond by telling her that it was because I love her - but of course I didn't.
Also, I was wondering if anybody has any tips on her to validate her feelings given this: lately she has been calling me up to tell me that her side/stomach/back is hurting her. I know she is calling me because she wants me to simply listen and show I care - but I don't really know how to respond at times to validate her feelings. I avoid giving her any solutions or play Mr. Fix-It. I normally tell her that I something among the lines of "oh, I'm sorry you are feeling that way or that that bites, etc." Other than that, don't really know what to say to show that I am listening or that I really care that she is in pain. Any suggestions on how to validate her feelings on this?
