So, what's the solution? He thinks everything is ok although I've told him that is not the case for me. He is more than willing to do counseling, but I can't see that helping when we have such a different perspective on this (I still don't get how he could even think it's 3-4 times a week!).
He is a very affectionate guy and loves to cuddle. However, that will probably be as much as he'll ever need. It is so frustrating to have him be so loving every night and every morning but, at the same time, be so willing to stop before it goes further. I'm 45 and feel like I'm back in high school sometimes.
It's a good thing I'm HD also because he isn't interested in touching me in any way when we do actually have sex. He tolerates me touching him sometimes, but I never sense that he really wants me to touch him at all. I've never been shy about touching but feel uncomfortable trying anything different with him because he tends to reject just "normal" touching.
