Still moving forward, no need to look back #5

[sandi2]

Hey Sweetie, haven't been to visit you in quite a while, so thought I would drop by. I kind of scanned the posts to catch up and I see that the ML timing is off. Well, that was always the story in my stitch. My timing and my H's timing is about the worst in the world. But somebody did sum up pretty well what I would say to you:

Instead of shooting for The Big Event ML, how about just making being flirty and suggestive more of a regular everyday occurrence? I'm not saying initiate every day of the week, but maybe just make that undercurrent of "I want you", "You are desirable", etc. more of joyful, regular part of your daily life? I could be reading into it, but maybe that's what W is saying when she says "let it happen naturally."

Hope they don't mind me quoting them.

I always tried to tell my H that if he would act flirty and playful throughout the evening or day, then I would be more in the mood to ML when bedtime came. One thing also, is not to wait too late to go to bed. When couples do that, then one of them is likely to fall asleep before the love making. People are over worked and over stressed in life today.

I would say that if couples did not "act" married all the time that would help.....lol. Kind of takes the romance out of it to feel so M. (Just kidding, but I think you know how I mean that.) I have told some other men on the board that I think couples forget how to act sexy after marriage. That is important to do all the time.....not just when they are wanting sex. It is little things that each one does that the other one sees as being sexy. But, I think being flirty (for me, anyway) was always the best ticket. Just try not to show anger or be in a sullen mood. That does something to a woman that I can't begin to explain. I know men feel rejected or let down, etc., but when they have that......sullen mood that shows up so bad when they didn't get any.......it kills something in the female and it takes a long time before she is in any mood herself to make love. So, in the long run, it isn't worth showing her a sullen attitude. Not that you did......I'm just throwing that in, free of charge.

Take care,
Sandi