Quoting COgal: He commented that it was terrible how a couple married five yrs. would only be having sex 1 or 2 times a month. He went on to say that we are having sex 3-4 times a week... Anyone else with a spouse who thinks things are better than they really are?
At the risk of calling in fire on my own position: have you considered the possibility that your H's statement may reflect a reasonably honest -- if highly inaccurate -- portrayal of his perception of your mutual sex life? I don't think it was in SSM, but I remember somewhere reading a statement to the effect that, as the LD partner is effectively in the driver's seat in controlling frequency, and consequently is able to have sex as "often" as he or she wants to, that the LD partner easily (and frequently) overestimates by a significant margin the actual frequency. I don't know how you'd go about "proving" this that wouldn't provoke a battle, but there may be something here more than is obvious on the surface. I know my wife (although tending to get extremely upset at any indication that I'm "keeping score) has often done the same type of thing, although not to the degree that you've written. Just a thought; I wish I had some concrete advice to go with it other than not assuming the worst. I remember a co-worker's cubicle sign: "Never attribute to malice what can adequately be explained by stupidity."
HERE is Edward Bear, coming downstairs now, bump, bump, bump, on the back of his head, behind Christopher Robin...sometimes he feels that there really is another way [of coming downstairs], if only he could stop bumping for a moment and think of it.
