Sounds like good advice,but it has been very hard to keep my lips sealed and only respond ater i put thought to it.
Sure, it's hard. This whole damned THING is hard -- probably the hardest thing you've ever had to do. But if you can't learn NOT TO REACT, when it's in your interest to do so, you're never going to get anywhere.
Learn to say:
"I'm sorry you feel that way."
"I don't want to talk about this right now."
"I'm not prepared to talk about this at the moment."
