Well, I had the appt w/ my new IC. She was everything I was hoping for and helped me.
She is very responsive to calls, she cares (I can tell by the way she talks), she has attended Michele's seminars and had only read DB. When I was contacting potential IC's and told my sitch and that I wanted someone familiar with solution-based therapy... she took me seriously and went out and bought DR. She even showed it to me during our meeting.
She also let me know that she was in my situation at one time with her H. It took 9 months, but the D was B.
As I've been told many times on this board, I have to not show my anger to my W. I was extremely successful today at the exchange. We spoke for a few minutes about the weekend and about W's trip to see her dad and her step-sisters. It went well... and I am happy about it. When the time comes IC told me I should let her know that I am still willing to work it out, but I am no longer going to be disrespected by W and her relationship with OM.
I also need to remind myself to be PATIENT... it has only been 3 months since D was filed and less than a month since 100% confirmation of OM.
The holidays are going to be rough emotionally, but I think I can make it through.
