Quote: "Most people can survive infidelity and can, in fact, make their marriage stronger once they work through the issues infidelity has brought into their lives."<hr /></blockquote>
I sure hope this is true! My H and I have been separated for 8 months, he still lives with his sister and sees OW. Is this a sign that our M can not work? Or should I give my H more time? He still comes over here, but not very often. When I first told him I didn't want a D; 1) we gave each othe hugs and sometimes kisses 2) he came over more He doesn't seem to want to do any of the above. I don't know if it is him or me. Did he feel hope and now thinks we can't get back together? Here I am assuming again! Why can't I stop this bad behavior of assuming.Everytime we get closer he backs off.
Quote: Has your opinion about the chances of a marriage surviving through infidelity changed from what you may have thought before it happened to you? Possibly went from "no way", to "maybe"?
I have gone from "no way" to better than "maybe", I think we can make this better than before. I would never have thought I would have stayed with H. And I did go and file for a D. My H has to forgive me for that. As long as he is seeing the OW how can we go anywhere in our R. I feel like he wants his cake and eat it too. But I haven't slept with H since he left. I just have a feeling I'm going about this wrong, that I'm missing the key to us getting back together. He never wanted a D, and says,"whatever makes you happy", he has never said he doesn't love me. So why aren't we getting back together? I think I need to change before he is willing to try and I think he needs to give up OW. We are at a catch 22 and that is why we can't work on rebuilding our M. His sister is no help as she is the OW friend and is against me. Any things you can ask to push me in the right direction or make me think? Deb
