Nothing new, same old frustrations and still party

[Little Engine]

I second Lanzo, Tim and Mike, your W has no one to blame but herself, she can't handle it, so she attempts to throw blame onto you to make herself feel empowered or the victim, whatever. You didn't bite the bait, and won't. When you have firm plans with the boys, you can calmly explain that to her. Tell her you understand that there will be times that plans will have to change, and you are willing to be flexible because you know that she will have things that she wants to share with the boys and it might be during your scheduled times. It shows you accept the situation she has put you in and you are willing to live within the terms she requested. It also establishes a boundary that says short-term changes to benefit her emotions are not acceptible. That she wants you to contribute towards taxes and treads I think is petty.