my theory on this is: i read a statistic somewhere that said that 50% of marriages end up in divorce but 80% of marriages suffer infidelity sometime in the marriage - so it shows there are at least 30% that aren't getting divorced. so my theory is that people work past it, and they do so QUIETLY. so the important thing to remember when suffering thru this kind of sitch is to not tell the world what happened. you have a better time of reconciliation when not many know about it. just my thought.
Quote: It's great, kewlkitti, that you know so many couples that DID survive. It would be interesting to hang out with these couples, and just kind of watch what goes on between them now. Maybe to see some of their interactions together, just for a little inspiration, and get some tips on learning how to "imitate success".
it's amazing jj - i have known these couples for YEARS and never would have suspected a thing, but some that had found out about my sitch and have now offered comfort to me with a resounding "don't give up" "give him and YOU time" "don't do anything for 6 months" - all these words of encouragement have been BLESSINGS because in just short of three months, i am already seeing changes
