Trixi aka "The Pitbull who can't let go"

[NikB]

((((Trixi)))

Wow, lots of drama with the SS... sorry to hear about all that! It sounds to me like you got way more involved than you needed to and that led to you building up some expectations of your H? Maybe?

I'm glad to hear of the slightly mended R with your in laws - even if they're not your in laws in future it still sucks having that negative "last note" hanging over you.

As for the airport thing - I'm sorry - I know that had to sting.

My feelings are VERY hurt right now. I feel like since the roommate is in MY house and picking up MY husband at the airport and with my H the first night he's been here in 2 weeks, that I should tell my H to go screw the roommate...I feel replaced. I'm jealous.

I TOTALLY understand this - in fact had a "moment" like this with H just last week. Obviously not to the same degree but I know the feeling.

I think you were probably venting more than anything but I wanted to mention it just in case - this comes across REALLY bad. Posessive, smothering, "entitled" - "MY MY MY H..." Yuck. IF that attitude comes across to him, I'm just afraid it may make things even worse. Not necessarily in your R because frankly that's pretty bad already (sorry, but I know you know this!). But in terms of your self esteem and your interactions with him. If he wants you HE should be fighting for YOU and doing what it takes to get YOU back - not the other way around.

I think this whole thing tells you a LOT in terms of how close/intimate of an R he wants with you.

If it were me.. I'd be too damn busy getting on with my own FABulous life to even bother answering his call tomorrow [or is it today, now?].

Lucky you - he's going to grace you with a phone call. Yippee. If you answer his call, I promise you, you're reinforcing the "I'm here no matter what and no matter how little I get from you, don't worry, I'll be waiting!"

I think you have a GREAT opportunity here, please don't waste it by answering the phone when he calls. [hopefully I'm not too late with this suggestion!] I'd wait at LEAST all day, if not a few days, to call him back.