To be clear to people reading the thread, my H is not mean to me when he's had too much to drink, instead then he's really lovey dovey (ick)...but it's the rest of the time that he's so difficult. I am learning this is not uncommon. Most of the time, if he isn't at work, he is drinking. He doesn't get really drunk and make scenes, but he does drink pretty steadily.
When it's bad he keeps an iced down cooler of beer in his car at all times. But it's not always like that. He manages, just like everything else, to keep it a level that's just under the radar of fullblown craziness...when it starts getting OTT I say something and he cuts back.
Basically, they told him not to drink when he started radiation, but he didn't stop. He stopped for a few weeks when the treatment was really bad, and that's the nicest I ever remember him being. That's when I thought...hmmmmm...is that why????
Anyway, he's really not supposed to drink anymore because of the cancer. Yeah right.
Like I was saying, I just thought this was ONE of our problems, and certainly not the worst one, because frankly, he's easier to get along with when he's laying on the couch with a buzz and not bothering me. But it's the problem that drives the other problems. His parents are the dry drunks that have to control to feel safe, because they were raised by volatile drinkers.
There are a handful of hardcore alcoholics in the family...I think H thinks if you're not as bad as so-and-so then you're not an alcoholic.
