It would be soooooooooo much easier if we could just tell our loved one what's bothering us and they would simply make the change.
But over and over again...wouldn't that be boring? Would we love them more? Probably not.
But there are moments when I sure wish so.
I think this helps us grow as people. To have to come to this struggle. Builds character? Coming to these struggles with my SO.....and truly changing....helps me with my relationships with my children, my coworkers, my friends....my whole life.
So.....well, I'm proof it's true. On either side. When I make the changes, he changes too. When I return to "more of the same" behavior...well, I get more of the same?
Manipulative? I guess everything we do is to some extent.
In the long run, if its for our common happiness, its a good thing. Its good for each of us, it's good for the relationship. It's good for our children, it's good for the world.
(I'm waxing philosophical. I sound sorta like PHOENIX!!!)
I think it's good to let our partners changes manipulate us too. My partner's on vacation.....he was sweet enough to bring me flowers and make extra time for me before he left....even though he was incredibly busy at work, at home and getting ready for the trip..........so...I'm giving him the gift of not calling him. Don't anybody laugh at me. Well, ok, if you want.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
