Most of the ideas behind Michele's methods are centered around "solution-oriented thinking". As she says, these ideas aren't so difficult, and they can be simply common sense, but common sense can be the first thing to go when it comes to emotionally charged relationship issues!
In the first three stories that Michele talks about, what really struck the biggest chord with you?
What were your thoughts about Florence and Pete, and even though Pete didn't want to do things Florence's way didn't mean that he didn't want to work on their marriage?
What about Mary and her husband, and the changes that occured when she found ways to stop pushing her husband's "negative buttons, and started pushing a few of his "positive" buttons instead?
What about Rob and Ellen, and how the changes that HE made single-handedly helped to cause a turnaround in their marriage?
What are YOUR thoughts on any of the following questions?
"If one partner can trigger change in another, why do we spend so much time trying to convince our partners to change first?"
"Why do I have to be the one to change?"
"What if I push the wrong button?"
"My spouse and I are barely speaking (or are separated). If I change my approach to things, will my spouse even notice?"
"Isn't it manipulative to try to change someone?"
"Why should I believe that anything I do will make a difference when it hasn't before?"
JJ
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