Diane, I want you to know that you are not alone in this. As much progress as I have made with my wife, she still does not feel the same about intimacy as I do. She is still only trying because she knows if she doesn't, that I would leave her. To her it's not something that she wants to do, it's something that she has to do.
I wrote in my journal a long time ago a long term goal: I want her to want this for herself. Until I feel that she really WANTS THIS I not sure I can be happy with her.
So here I am still wondering if this longterm goal of mine will ever be met. You are right that in the end if they can't or won't ever want to be close to us then it is up to ourselves to decide if we can live without what we desire so much....If we can't live without it then we move on..... It is a very difficult decision to make.
