Quote: If nothing else, LL, this might help to give you a different way to look at things, and maybe come up with some different options to experiment with.
funny thing is it all depends on his mood (and there is no beromiter for his mood, time of day, day of week etc.) how he will respond to my "complaints" wich aren't actually complaints but more of requests for what I need/want. some times he's receptive and compationate, understanding...other times I get the "no matter what I do, it's just never enough" or of course there's the old "didn't I do that just the other day, you are so full of it, you don't even know what you are talking about, just listen to yourself" that's always a fun one....kinda the words to use when trying to create a waw.
so I guess for me it's sit back...breath in...breath out...keep busy...keep happy...try not to let resentment show or build and see what happens from there.
ie. most often I am annoyed with having to go to h instead of him comming to me (an old pattern returning)...so tonight after putting the kids to bed I went and sat outside on the hammock....h came down and sat on the picknic table nearby and began to "complain" about the weather..his being so busy...pointed out that he wasn't as busy last year...that this year it all seems never ending...that he's looking forward to having a day and a half off (sat and sun) that he's looking forward to the end of the season..and then asked if I was staying out there...I responded with...well the next time I have to wave a bug away I'm heading in...h's response was..well I'm getting chomped..comon' in...orielly is on.
though it was a nice interaction and totaly initiated and carried through by him...I always feel like I want and need some r talk...but then I think...no don't go there...it wont get you anywhere...these crappy feelings are yours...don't spoil a pleasant evening with that crap. but that crap has to be let out and in my opinion it would be best discussed with him..but to him it's just more of that crap, so what to do??? punt I suppose.
