Quoting lostlove:I can honestly say that I'm not sure of h's thoughts but I would imagine as long as I'm not complaining he'd probably say 5
That almost sounds like it falls into one of the love illusions from the KLA tapes.....
"My wife is always nagging. Her constant complaining must be an attempt to push me away."
Do you think that this may be what HE thinks?!
The fact is....
"Nagging or complaining is often a woman's way of trying to change things for the better. Men should worry when women stop complaining."
Although this part of the tape is kind of geared towards helping men to realize that a woman's "nagging" isn't always a bad thing, there may be some things here that you could work with on your end, without him.
Or, maybe, at the right moment, you could tell him this right up front? Let him know that your "complaining" isn't meant to push him away, that you're just trying to make things better?
He might have some suggestions on what might help him listen to your "complaints" better, so he doesn't think you're just "bitching" at him.
If nothing else, LL, this might help to give you a different way to look at things, and maybe come up with some different options to experiment with.
JJ
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