Here's the run down - H and I went climbing and had a great time again and then called at the supermarket on the way back to get stuff for tea - thanks Ali - i appreciate the suggestion - actually i loathe beans on toast! So that was never going to be on - but there's more of a back-story to that throw away comment about beans on toast - 1. i still only have a microwave so anything particularly sophisticated is a bit of a stretch and 2. OM is a bit of a foodie - and judging by the stuff appearing in W's fridge and cupboards recently I get the impression he is a bit "anal" about his cooking - i am not and weirdly W previously didn't really have any time for such people - here's the woman who would rather live on cereal than be bothered about cooking for the sake of it - although we both appreciate simple but good food and W does like the feeling of sharing good simple food shared/prepared with friends - so the challenge was to come up with something that showed I had gone to some effort, a single meal ok for the 3 of us and which didn't take an age to prepare. So - seafood spaghetti with tomato and mushroom sauce with parmesan and salad was what i went for...and with a bit of juggling it all came together and was complimented...and because it was done via a microwave i didn't put my usual blokey trick of using every pan and utensil in the kitchen!
We also sorted out a load of business stuff concerning christmas - whos going where and when etc and presents we're going to sort for H and diary dates for the next 3 ish months - W brought her diary along and wanted to get a load of weekend and holiday dates pencilled in - times when i would have h at mine so she can go away etc...I have no problems with any of these and happily put them all in my diary - no point getting upset if those include some times she will spend with OM right? the way i am looking at those dates is that they are times I will have with H...
no r talk and no cross words - nothing but goodwill, cooperation and kindness - and yes Lan - my PMA was on show...and i agree on the observation about the more positive feeling my posts have these days - me moving out has taken that sting out of W's tail - its what she wanted me to do and me procrastinating did me no favours - it caused more resentment in W - although of course I am not at all happy about OM and the opportunities created for her by me moving it has allowed me to become more level in myself and to be able to interact much more positively with my W.
i think at the very least we are realising that we can work together to make the best of the sitch as it stands in H's interests...
...not at all sure if the shine with OM is wearing off or still there - not really considering him...simply had a nice time.
Am wondering whether to follow up with a text or phone call to say thanks for coming round - I enjoyed it - or simply to leave it for what it was - think the latter probably best but open to ideas!
KBO - GFI
Me: 40ish W: 40ish Together: 20 ish years Married: 10ish Years
