For the Guy with Kids and a WW Vinte (20)

[hopeful4her]

Okay, I think I did something not too smart.

I haven't done Yahoo messenger in over a year. I got it setup again last night and it blasted an invite to several people, including the wife. After I sent it, I thought, "Crap!" and tried to intercept it, but couldn't.

This morning, I'm on here looking around, and I get a message of her accepting. I hit ok and 2 minutes later, she sends me a message.

"What are you doing up so early and on messenger?" she laughed.

I had to respond and told her that I'm always up early. That I think I got about 5 hours sleep this time. She said it was more than her and she asked about the girls. She said she was getting ready to go hit the stores.

With what money, I have no idea.

She said something about not being able to go during the week, because she gets out late and she doesn't want to drive in the dark. I tell her that girls are fine, that we stayed up late and how D7 is doing. She says she has to get out of the apartment because its too quiet and it makes her sad. I tell her that I'm going to be bbqing later, so she may have to pick them up and she says that is fine.

She told me to have fun chatting and I told her to have a great day in the hustle and bustle and that she was never able to be cooped up. She laughed and said it was sooooooo true.

Messenger bad. I thought it would be fun to show myself online to everyone and chat people.

She had to be the first one. DOHH!

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Yep. Now you've set yourself up where anytime you're on there, you only have two choices: be too accessible to her ("pursuing"), or ignoring her (which is just rude).

I suggest you ditch the whole install in a few days, and tell her you found that it was a distraction from getting your work done or something. What you DON'T want to do is give your wife just enough "drip-drip-drip" of Hopeful4Her I.V. that she doesn't have to make any meaningful decisions.

You are SO much like me, H4H -- you are a natural-born "rescuer." I bet you are a KRAPPY practical joker, am I right??? Can't stand to see the other person twist in the wind, even for a MINUTE??

Puppy

[kat727]

I hope you and d7 are felling better. Being sick with the holiday just around the corner sucks. You need to stay away from your W for a bit and let her come to. good thinking telling her she needs to pick up the kids.

I'm still keeping an eye on you. (except when you are talking Karen, bathtub and chocolate...I am not watching then ) lol

kat

[hopeful4her]

Actually no. I'm a great fibber, and an excellent actor. Add the playful in me, and that that makes for a great practical joker.

Everything else, you and are I are very much alike.

The wife already called me.

"When I said the store, I meant the grocery store."
"Okayyy."
"Do you need anything?"
"Well...."
"For Thanksgiving."

I let her know what I have already. I tell her to buy a couple more things. I told her that I was going to make rice squares today, but need to find the recipe. She starts to tell me. I tell her that I have the recipe after all.

We talk about other stuff that I have gotten for the dinner and then we discuss daycare. She tells me that she is off for the week except Monday. We discuss what she is going to do with the girls and then we end the convo and she says that she'll call us later.

I plan on setting my IM on unavailable. That should work.

I think she might have been alone last night. At least around 8:30 to 9pm. She would not have been checking emails if OM was around and with her. Same for this morning. She would not be checking computer stuff.

But she was in her IM to have gotten my invite.

And with her reading my email last night....who knows what she is thinking right now. Maybe thats why she wanted to get out this morning. Messed with her.

[hopeful4her]

Hey kat. I keep an eye on you too, 'cept I AM looking while your watching Greys. Just waiting for when you go total.

You need to stay away from your W for a bit and let her come to.

And let her what?!

kat, I think she is doing this a hell of a lot more than I am. That's part of the problem.

And she called me again. If I had this and if I had that. At one point, I thought I heard her talking to someone.

"What?"
"Oh, nothing. I was talking....to myself."

[InLikeFlynn]

When I said the store, I meant the grocery store."
"Okayyy."
"Do you need anything?"
"Well...."
"For Thanksgiving."

My first thought was to say.....yeah my wife wrapped in a towel laying next to me" Oh you mean for Thanksgiving dinner!!

[kat727]

Boy, leaving out one word did make that sound naughty. Is sex so on my mind that it infiltrates even my subconscious thoughts? I need to remedy this soon. Sorry.

kat

[LL44]

Hey mister.

karen, I AM of afraid of losing her 100%.

This is STILL my case, even though I am divorced. lol I find myself still hanging onto little things that keep us connected. Its getting better all the time, and I tell myself "What I am worried about, that he'll divorce me!?" In fact, he actually shows MORE respect towards me when I don't consider his feelings these days.

Let go when you can hopeful.

LMFAO at the insurance thing. I love it. Snarky is good in measured doses. Once, a long time back, I handed xH a soda. He looked at it, and said "You have a sip first, then I'll accept it".

Regarding chat/IM, I agree with Puppy. Ditch it and use the 'too much distraction' excuse. Perfect.

[hopeful4her]

When I said the store, I meant the grocery store."
"Okayyy."
"Do you need anything?"
"Well...."
"For Thanksgiving."

My first thought was to say.....yeah my wife wrapped in a towel laying next to me" Oh you mean for Thanksgiving dinner!!

I've actually had a thought about trying to be flirty. Kinda hard when your trying very little contact.

But its possible.

Okay, ya'll are gonna kick my azz. Yesterday, I DID end up responding to her email to me.

She had sent to me,

"Hey, you don’t have to agree with me silly, lol I had to stay late yesterday"

Later, I responded, after much internal fighting,

"Well, if the dye fits.

Stay warm. I had to work today. I'm in the office, but I sit next to the door. I don't have my jacket so my hands are freezing and I have "dangerous" fripples.

She sent back,

"Lol, I’m at work too, and the heater isn’t working and I have windows all around me, I’m cold too."

I sent back,

"I know you. Don't poke anybody's eye out.

Leaving soon. Have no idea what we're gonna do today. I've been wanting to BBQ like a mad man lately, just haven't gotten to. Either tonight or tomorrow. I heard that Incarnate Word(local private university) might light up the school tonight, so might drive around there to see. "

She got busy after that and she knew I had left work soon after.

I'm really trying. It may not seem like it, but I am. I want to do the right thing. I think it would be different if the holidays weren't here.

I didn't initiate the email yesterday, just responded. I didn't initiate the IM today, just responded. I haven't called her, just answered.

I'm trying to let her come to me. Isn't that a good thing?

[hopeful4her]

Boy, leaving out one word did make that sound naughty. Is sex so on my mind that it infiltrates even my subconscious thoughts? I need to remedy this soon. Sorry.

kat

kat, just freakin' say it!

I NEED TO GET LAIDDDDD!

I'll shout it out with ya.