Most people are much happier in their second marriages because they've learned from their mistakes." I am on my second marriage and even though we are going through DR it was by far better than my first. Even now, despite my H EA and MLC, I love him and have been more happy than ever. I have only been DR loyal for about a month, but I think I'm beginning to see some positive responses and I may be able to save this second marriage and avoid discovering a third.
How many people do you know that believe this to be true? (Not counting anybody in the entertainment industry?! ) I have been told that subsequent marriages are more prone to failure and that has always been a little unnerving.
How many of you know people that are in your second, third, or even fourth marriage, who keep making the same "mistakes"? That maybe all they have learned is to get a better pre-nuptual agreement up front?!
My mother is on number three and still has the bad habits, but has found a compliant spouse who ignores her habits.
What are your thoughts about when Michele says "Unless you understand that "marriage" doesn't make people happy, you will spend the rest of your life trading in marital partners for new ones."? I believe she hit the nail on the head. It is a common misconception that the marriage is the happy ending and the rest is pure joy. WRONG. Movies end at the wedding because the marriage is hard work, this may also be why subsequent marriages tend to fil, because people keep looking for the permanent puppy love relationship.
When she talks about being satisfied with your own life, and being on a path that is satisfying to you as an individual? This makes sense, but I'm still working on making myself happy right now. I'll get back to yo on that one
What are your thoughts as this relates to both you, and your partner?
I think that I am trying to learn as much as I can from Michelle and hope that she is right. I have religiously followed the DR book and I am fortunate to have a C who recommended it. After 5 weeks I am starting to see some positive results. There is still no 'I love you' or free kisses, but there is more pleasant conversation and the occasional gentle touch on the shoulder, back, arm or whatever. I am choosing to believe this will work and will not quit.
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