BBJ, I only have time to read your first post right now but I want to comment on it.
My H too doesn't mind if he plays, but he wants to call the shots. If your H lets you play, he gives up some control. I think it one of the few things that they control. Funny that they complain that we don't want to play, then when we do they don't want us too.
Your H hasn't found a T that has helped!?!?! WTF?! My H kept going to his worthless T for too long because his T told him what he wanted to hear. When H went to a psychiatrist he didn't like what the first one said was wrong so he went to a different one.
Everyone wants to fix your H?!?! Maybe everyone but your H realizes that he is broken. Remember your H needs to fix himself, unfortunately it might be later rather than sooner.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008